Sunday, November 25, 2012

Thoughts

Had a sour Thanksgiving,  BUT i am truly Thankful for the Blessings i have..... which is surely more than many.
And i stayed in the RV and it worked really well, furnace on, using propane, and electric mattress pad, cozy as can be!!
Have a niece who, when she decides she does not like what a person says, (as far as far as i can deduce)  it is a good thing to use her new baby (grandchild of my brother) as a pawn & keep the family from seeing the  baby or her.... Apparently my fault.  There comes a time when enough is enough.. I will be making alternate plans for Xmas and not go thru that again..  Then she can have free access to the family w/o worrying about my being there.  Life is too short for this bullshit.  I have tried to offer an olive branch, text message, phone message, that we need to get together to talk, discuss, resolve..... no response.  Mind u this has been going on for 7 months now..... enough.... As far as i am concerned she is a sorry piece of work, and certainly never took the lessons learned at my mother's knee to heart. (don't worry she does not read my blog)
I hesitated even putting this on here, but the good with the bad and this is what is going on, and a part of my record of life..... I wish and certainly pray for things to be different, so far to no avail......
Take Care All & God Bless
It looks as if everyone had lovely days with family.......

13 comments:

  1. I am so sorry you had a miserable Thanksgiving. I didn't put it on the blog but, we had a bad one too. I was so upset I ended up sleeping most of the day after crying so much. It is a shame that family has to be the way it is. Life is too short, and when it is too late...then it is too late to do anything isn't it? I hope things get better for you.

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  2. Years ago I went through the same kind of thing, and just stayed away. I still do. I'd rather have a nice day with my kids, by myself or with friends than a miserable day with extended family. Once I made that decision, I started having fun holidays again.

    Don't worry about it, it really is nice to "miss" all the turmoil. :)

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  3. Thanks for sharing, Loree. Things are going better for us now, but we've been having an issue for a while about us being given very limited access to our granddaughter. Not fun and has caused a lot of heartache on our end! Hopefully the situation with your niece will improve with time. What comes over these young people after they have a child? Is it just hormones or is it a power trip? :(

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  4. I'm so sorry for you and for the child. I wonder if the games played ever really make anyone happy including the player. A foolish way for her to spend the only life and time she has. IMO

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  5. Sounds like the young lady needs some growing up. But then, who knows what demons live in her life and her brain? You've extended the olive branch, and you have to be Number One in your life. Just lay low for a while, maybe things will swing around the other way some day.

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  6. I have a friend who was so excited about going to a family reunion (turned out good for her) and she asked me about our family. I had to laugh because the last thing we want is a family reunion. Too much drama and I really don't need that. I will never understand people who use their children as pawns in whatever game they think they're playing. You have done all you can and since that isn't enough, you need to take care of you now. Not easy but sometimes necessary.

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  7. Sorry for your ruined holiday, Lorie. Seems like there is one in most every family who has to be silly or over-sensitive about things. We have one in ours too. It is sad that the only way to deal with them is avoidance. Look forward to some good thing you would like to do and don't dwell on the negative. (I know, its easier said than done) and be good to yourself.

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  8. Loree!? This is exactly why I don't like the holidays any longer... I will not put myself through any of that crap not one more time....

    I stayed away last Thanksgiving but felt guilty and went 'home' Christmas... bah freakin humbug...

    no ... no more. damn straight life is too short... I'm at the beach!

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  9. That sucks about Thanksgiving. Hard to do, but it's best to ignore all that drama...

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  10. Hey there. Sorry to hear about the family drama. You're correct in that life is too short. Remember, friends you choose - family you are sometimes stuck with. Take care and keep your single chin up! You look great, by the way.

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  11. So sorry about ur Thanksgiving. I remember those times in our family-wasn't about withholding children but arguments and ruined holidays nonetheless. I chose to continue to try and make peace while my Mother and Grandmother were alive...have chosen to just live my life now. Sad what family can do-it shouldn't be that way. Ur a strong woman as u've shown by ur weight loss-congratulations for all the hard work by the way, u look GREAT!!! Decide where u'd like to spend the rest of ur holidays and then do it. It's worth it, believe me. It took me finding out I had terminal cancer to let it all go-have learned to enjoy every single day. Life is better now and can be for u too. God bless u.

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  12. Sad your heart is broken and heavy over the relationship. Forgiveness can be one sided but that does not necessarily restore a relationship to its previous state. I pray her heart gets melted and she recognizes she is missing having the best great auntie her little one could ever hav in her life.

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  13. Sorry to hear about your Thanksgiving. We had a good Thanksgiving with our one Son and Granddaughter.
    Our other Son disowned us in August and so the holidays will be a little sad....but after crying about it for weeks, I have had to come to the realization that this was HIS choice not mine and if you can't work through things than you have to move on. It hurts, sure it does, but I am tired of being manipulated and screamed at.

    You are looking SO GOOD....I am so proud of you!!! Remember you have family and friends that think you are wonderful.....let the other people just stew in their own juices if they can't find it in their heart to grow up and act civilized.

    LOVE YOU

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